“Reputation is what people think you are. Character is who you really are. Take care of your character and your reputation will take care of itself.”
I remember asking my grandfather for advice growing up and he replied “Do you want to be liked or do you want to be respected.” I asked “can’t I be both”. His answer-“Not always”!
This was a hard lesson to learn, because most of us prefer to make the easy choice- to be liked. When your character and values are tested, being respected is more challenging.